Mistakes To Avoid On a First Date- [Must Read]
There's a lot to pay attention to on a date and what we think of the other person, how we’re coming across, whether they meet our expectations, whether we meet theirs, what we should and should not say or do, all of which is over and above our need to be present and engaged in the activity of the moment (e.g., ordering food, drinking, etc..).
Knowing ahead of time what behaviours to avoid can save you from making the kinds of avoidable mistakes that can cost you a second date with a person you like.
The Following is a list by Psychology of the most common date mistakes.
Lateness
It makes a terrible first impression and guarantees the other person is starting the date annoyed. Make sure to text with an apology if it can’t be avoided and to apologise again when you arrive.
Rudeness to service people
Nothing screams entitlement, irritability or obnoxiousness more than being rude to a waiter. If the waiter is just that bad, tell your date what you find unacceptable about the service and that you plan to say something, and consider skipping it if your date objects or seems uncomfortable.
Not asking questions
Asking questions conveys engagement. If you’re not asking your date questions they’ll assume you’re uninterested in them and will promptly lose interest in you. If you’re shy or unsure about what to ask, feel free to think of questions ahead of time.
Talking about your ex
Unless you’re asked directly, avoid getting into soliloquies about your ex. It will only make you look like you haven’t moved on. If you are asked, say the briefest, nicest thing you can and try to change the subject (subtly and politely if possible).
Poor table manners
Most of us know saliva breaks down food – we don’t need to see a demonstration of it. Watch your manners.
Don’t overdrink
Taking the edge off is fine but make sure you stay present and in control. Getting sloppy or messy on a first date does not make a good impression unless your date is getting just as sloppy and messy as you are, which is not how most solid relationships begin.
Don’t check your phone
Checking your phone makes you come across as either bored or distracted, neither of which is especially appealing to the person you’re with. If you must check your phone, apologise, explain if you can, and do it quickly. Or just excuse yourself to the restroom and do it there.
Discussing your ideal wife/husband
The problem with this topic is it usually comes across as a ‘must-have’ deal-breaker-list most people cannot live up to, even when it’s intended as a ‘nice-to-have’ guideline. In other words, it’s likely to turn off the other person rather than endear them to you.
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