Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Guys Who Are Older Than Them
A thread was created earlier today about the age gap for a lady or guy to get married. I observed that many girls preferred to date older guys from their comments. I don't really see this as a bad idea but what I find ridiculous is a girl dating a guy way older than her. How can an 18 year old girl who is still struggling with JAMB or probably still in the University be dating a guy of 29-32 and be comfortable.
To me that's cradle robbery. When the guy started having sex you were probably still in kindergarten or wearing diapers and yet you find nothing bad in dating him.
However that is not what I want to discuss on. I discussed with some of my female friends as to why they prefer dating older men and here are some of the reasons I could gather.
1. Financial stability.
One of the Major reasons is Financial stability. The girls believe dating somebody older than them will help them escape some of their financial hurdles. They don't want to associate with young guys of their age who are still hustling to make paper. Some of them will not date you once you still depend on your parents. That's why some of them can date a married man. You find majority of these types in the Universities and other tertiary institutions.
2. Experience
One of the reasons I got from a girl is Experience. In her words she said "Older guys are more experienced in the matters of Love". When it comes to sex, an older male is perceived as knowing his way around the bedroom. He's had to time to perfect his technique, and he can show his younger lover a good sexual time.With an older man, women don't expect any awkward moments in the dark. They expect the guy to know exactly what he is doing and to take the time to meet their needs. Hmmm. I don't know how true this is. Is it that the older you are the more girls you would have dated and therefore you'll have experience? Ladies should please help us with explanations, please.
3. Reliability/Trust
Another point Noted out is that they can easily trust these guys. One girl told me that she can easily trust an older guy and he has less tendencies to cheat. She says younger guys are still immature and adventurous so they cannot be fully trusted. Hmmm, Do you think it is true.
4. READY FOR COMMITMENT
Festus had time to experiment and play the field. Now, they are looking to settle down and commit to a long-term relationship or even to marriage. At this point in his life, he knows that he doesn't want to be alone, and he knows the type of woman who will make him happy. If they have not already had children with previous spouses, older men may wish to immediately marry and start a new family.
5. BETTER AT COMMUNICATING
ladies are drawn to older men because they are better communicators. Men with an age advantage of 15 years or more have already been through previous relationships. They have learned from their mistakes. They will try not to repeat these actions as they work on a new relationship. Older guys may dwell less on jealousy issues and instead focus on communicating clearly with you so that there will be no misunderstandings. He will be ready to work at making the relationship succeed.
6. Freedom
Another point noted is freedom. Some girls like the fact that an older guy will be too busy with his work to be insecure about her activities. You see cases of a girl who is in the university dating a working class guy far away and so she has the freedom to do whatever she wants with other young guys and her real boyfriend may not bother to interrogate her. This is not always the case though. As men are generally jealous.
7.Maturity
This is one of the major points that almost every girl who supports this cause raised. In their opinion, older guys are way mature than guys of their age bracket. One girl on Primebaze said this and I quote, "sometimes they act their age and you are tempted to ask, How old are you again?"
Lol,,as much as we know that maturity is not by age it could still be true that young guys may act their age sometimes but you cannot blame them as it is a phase of life everyone must pass.
But my question to the ladies is if you date an older guy because he may be mature are you also going to be mature in the relationship? You can't be acting like a kid and expect the other guy to keep tolerating you.
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